The End of Pain and Suffering
You are not your mind.
Don't judge
Judging is anything that gives you a sense of superiority, anything through which you could make yourself right and others wrong. Faultfinding and complaining are judging. Judging comes from the mind and identification with it. You are not your mind.
Don't attach
Another sign of identification with the mind is attachment. Do not identify with people, possession, philosophy, or personality. Deep emotional attachment is not true caring or true love. Watch for strong aversion which is negative attachment. Do not create an identity from other persons, belongings, beliefs, goals, or opinions.
Don't resist
Resistance brings negativity. Resistance always distort your perception of reality. Why do you resist some event or something or someone? Generally, because you have judged it as "bad." Resisting the "good" is when there is a failure to be grateful.